Our Summer Bucket List

Hey all! It’s been quite a while since my last post, but I’ve been super busy making the most of these wonderful summer days with my kiddos! Once we finish our school year and get back from our family vacation, we like to run wild and do all sorts of things together as well as with our friends.

This year, my older kids are all working hard, so, my youngest three and I made a summer bucket list of all the things we should do during our months of doing anything and everything we want! These last two weeks they’ve been attending their favorite summer camp, so I finally have a chance to sit down and share with you what our summer looks like so far this year.

We checked off the first item on our list with a visit to the boathouse to see my parents where we kayaked and played in the Choptank River. We’ll be going back a few times this summer for sure, since we all have a ton of fun there!

Next, we decided to visit a sunflower maze. It was incredibly hot, but it was really awesome walking through nearly 6 acres of sunflowers towering over our heads. Since the maze was over 2 hours from home, we decided to have a little fun at lunchtime and visit a 50’s diner!

Going to the beach with our friends is always a favorite! We like to go to Towers Beach near Rehoboth, Delaware. They have a great bathhouse complete with showers and changing rooms. We moms sit on the beach for hours and hours while all our kids ride waves, build castles, dig for sand crabs and get sunburned! We pack up around 5 p.m. and then head to the boardwalk in Rehoboth before heading home.

Everyone in my family is a huge Marvel fan, so when we heard that the new Spider-Man movie was coming out this summer, we knew that that absolutely had to be on our bucket list! Marvel didn’t disappoint, and we all had a great time at the theater together. A plus for this activity was that my daughter, Amanda, was able to join us!

The 4th of July is always a blast for us. We get to be a part of a float in the annual parade in Kingsville. We help to represent the Beachmont Corn Maze. The only down side of the parade, is that it’s usually about a million degrees out and we all get REALLY hot wearing costumes and standing out in the hot sun waiting for the parade to start. Once the parade starts, though, we all get to march down the middle of the road waving and smiling and handing out candy and brochures telling people about this year’s upcoming maze.

Our picnic on the 4th always ends in tons of home made ice cream. I posted the recipe last year if you want to check it out. I made a new flavor this year that was amazing! Raspberry Chocolate Truffle. Yummy! Unfortunately, the schedule that week was so crowded that I was on my own making the ice cream this year, BUT everyone definitely got to eat it!

During the week of the 4th, my daughter came up to visit from Florida with some of her friends. We chose this time to check off having crabs for lunch! If you’ve not eaten Maryland crabs, you’ve not eaten crabs. Am I right??? The friends were impressed and we all had a great time picking crabs and hanging out together. I do love me some crabs!

We got to check two thing off of our list last week that has been an annual tradition for a really long time. The first one is dressing up like cows for Chick-Fil-A’s Cow Appreciation Day. We pick up all our kids from camp, slap on some white t-shirts, black spots and pile in our vans to take over the nearest Chick-Fil-A. There are A LOT of us, so when I say take over, I mean literally. Tons of people from Beachmont camp go, and the line is usually out the door!

The second item we check off is going to multiple 7-Elevens on July 11, for free slurpees. This year was especially memorable since we drove through blinding sheets of rain in the middle of a massive thunder storm just to get a free slurpee! What can I say? Traditions and free food were worth it!

The next thing on our list is working at the Harford County Farm Fair next week. We’ll be at the Beachmont Corn Maze booth all week, so if you’re at the fair, stop by and see us!

We still have lots of items to check off of our list. I want our summers to be filled with lots of good times and making wonderful memories together. I only have so much time with my kids, and I want to make the most of every moment. We’re only half way through summer, so we still have many many days to run wild and crazy and to check those items off of our summer bucket list!

Flowers, Weeds and Kids

I spent quite a bit of time this morning weeding the flower bed in front of my house. I’ll admit that this is not my favorite job, but I have found that when my flower bed is flourishing, it brings me a lot of joy. That must be what John Keats was feeling when he wrote, “A thing of beauty is a joy forever”.

I’m not very good at the whole gardening thing. Hardy plants are the way to go for me. I have a few really beautiful rose bushes that my oldest son gave me and I have Jonquils and Hostas that come up every year. About this time each year, I give the flower bed a good weeding, buy some Impatiens and scatter them throughout the bed and call it a day.

Last year, my daughter planted a bunch of flower seeds in there and we had a bunch of sunflowers pop up as well as a few other varieties of flowers that were pretty, but I have no clue what they were. We also had a random vine with four or five pumpkins spring up and take over the entire bed – until I tried to “gently” prune it, and I killed the whole lot of them. Yup! That about sums up my gardening skills for you.

Last summer, I managed to get my hands on some mint plants and transplanted them into my little garden area. They were really scrawny looking, but one thing I do know about plants, is that mint is super hardy and will actually take over your whole garden if you’re not careful. A perfect plant for a non-green-thumb like myself! They did not disappoint, and I now have many fragrant mint plants spring up and I have already enjoyed some really delicious mint iced tea from them.

As I was pulling up all the nasty weeds this morning, I noticed that when I pulled some weeds that were really close to the mint, I pulled up one of the mint plants as well! Oops! I guess I’ll leave the weeds that are super close so that I don’t kill my mint. I also noticed something else. There weren’t actually very many weeds among the mint plants. That is true of my Hosta plants as well. The more the Hostas flourish, the less weeds there are to pull around them. I’m sure that this isn’t news to you avid gardeners out there. This is probably why your flowers beds are so gorgeous! The more flowers, the less weeds!

This made me think of my kids’ lives and how very much like gardening parenting can be. As a mom, I desperately want my kids to grow and bloom into something beautiful that God can use to further His kingdom and will bring joy to Him as well as to others looking on. I try my best to cultivate the soil of their hearts and plant things that will thrive and grow despite any adverse conditions that they may face.

When the “weeds” of this world spring up and try and crowd out the good things growing, I try to be quick to identify them as such and do my best to help the kids uproot them and not let them grow. Sometimes though, just like my mint plants, these weeds grow really close to the roots of the good things in my kids’ lives. Often, it’s hard to tell which root is which and as much as I don’t want to, it is actually better for their spiritual growth and well being that I leave the “weed” there. I couldn’t possibly remove every single bad thing from my kids’ lives any more than I could get rid of every single weed root in my garden. I dare say that I have my share of “weeds” in my own life and only God can remove them without uprooting the good things!

The thought of leaving things in my kids’ lives that might not be pleasing to God was not really something I liked to think about doing. What if those “weeds” start to choke out the good fruit in their lives? What if they take over the whole garden and there aren’t any beautiful blooms left to see? What if they end up walking away from God? What if, what if, what if?

Well, what if, like a beautiful garden full of blooms, there were so many good things planted in my kids’ lives, that there was barely any room for weeds to grow? What if, just like my mint plants that will spread and probably take over my garden, my kids’ faith spreads beyond our walls and begins to dominate their friendships, their school, their work, and every other aspect of their lives? What if revival in our country started with my kids???

This year maybe I will try and plant more than just a few flowers to make my garden look pretty. Maybe I will fill up the bed with so many plants that the weeds that are there won’t stand a chance. Perhaps, I will rethink the gardening plans I have for my kids as well. I’ll concentrate more on what I’m putting into their lives and worry less about trying to weed out every little thing that doesn’t belong.

Easter: A Time to Celebrate

Easter at the Tritt house is full of wonderful traditions! All of us love celebrating the resurrection of Jesus. We have some old traditions that have been around since our first child was born, and we have some brand new traditions that we enjoyed making this year.

One of the first things that we do to prepare for Easter is dye our eggs – all 5 dozen of them. Yup. 60 eggs. Before you start thinking that we must be sitting around dying eggs for hours, you have to remember that we have 7 kids that still live at home. That’s 9 people to divide all of those eggs between, so this way everyone gets a decent amount to color.

My family doesn’t really dye eggs in the traditional way. We stopped doing that once our oldest kids got to be teenagers. We use the traditional egg dye, but we also get out the sharpies, and the creative minds run wild!

Believe it or not, most of the eggs are gone in just a few days. Between the deviled eggs for Easter dinner and people eating them for breakfast, 5 dozen eggs go pretty fast around here!

A new tradition that my girls and I started this year, was to attend the Good Friday service at our church. This was such a sobering time as we reflected on the death of Jesus. All of us came out of the service with a fresh view of just how much God sacrificed for us.

The very next morning, my youngest daughter and I had to be back at church at 7 am to help hide over 6000 plastic eggs filled with candy and other goodies. It took us nearly 2 hours to hide them all and only about 20 minutes for all those eager children to find them all! It was such a great time of serving the community with our church family. Another new tradition that we will be keeping!

My favorite Easter tradition would have to be one that I have kept for as long as I can remember. Waking up early on Easter morning and going to the sunrise service at the camp where I grew up. I’ve only missed two of these in all of my years. Once when my husband served in the Air Force and once when I was giving birth to my son, Mark.

I absolutely love sunrises, and to couple this with the celebration of Christ’s resurrection is one of the best ways to spend Easter morning.It truly is a wonderful experience!

The morning starts off with a short reenactment of Jesus’ walk up the hill to Calvary. For the past several years, two of my sons have had this privilege. They walk to the sound of a trumpet playing “The Old Rugged Cross”.

After this, there is a time of singing, reading God’s Word and a brief Easter message. This all takes place with a beautiful view of the sun rising over the trees.

When we get home from the service, the kids will find an Easter basket in their rooms. We don’t get too carried away, and there isn’t tons of candy in there, but I think that as long as I have unmarried kids, they will get a chocolate Easter bunny from mom!

I like to put other things in the baskets, like a favorite drink, or maybe a clothing item the kids need. I re-use the baskets every year, except for the two little boys. For their baskets, I buy them a new sand bucket and shovel to take on our family vacation. This year, I included new swim suits for them, since they both would need one anyway. They were super excited!

After church on Easter, we have a nice ham dinner together, and then everyone spends the rest of the day enjoying each other’s company and many of us take a much needed nap!

I love all of our Easter traditions. I love spending time with the family, and I love celebrating our Savior together. HE IS RISEN!!!!

Annual Spring Trip To DC

Every year about this time, pictures start popping up on all sorts of media of the beautiful cherry blossoms in Washington DC. For many years, I talked about going to see them, but when I actually got around to planning anything, I had missed my window of opportunity and the blossoms were all gone.

Three years ago, I FINALLY made it to DC to see these amazing trees in all their glory. I read somewhere that the sunrise is beautiful if you watch it come up from the Lincoln Memorial. Since sunrises are one of my favorite things, and crowds are not, I came up with this crazy plan to leave my house at 4 am and park myself on the steps of the memorial until the sun came up. I would then take a stroll around the tidal basin to see the cherry trees before all the crowds arrived for the day.

Only one of my kids was up for joining me on my crazy adventure. My youngest daughter, Alyssa, jumped at the chance for some one-on-one time with her mom, and gladly got up on a Sunday morning at 4:00 and headed to DC with me. We parked behind the Jefferson Memorial on Ohio Drive SW and hiked a mile to the Lincoln Memorial. The sunrise was indeed spectacular and the cherry blossoms were breathtaking. We made it back in time for church, but we had to elbow each other all through the sermon to stay awake. Maybe Sunday wasn’t the best day to choose to get up so early!

This started an annual tradition for us. Last year, we were joined by another mom and her kids, and another one of my daughters joined us as well. The trees were still magnificent, but it was too cloudy to actually see the sunrise. This gave me a few more ideas to improve my planning for this trip.

This year, I watched the weather more carefully, as well as keeping up with the peak bloom predictions at cherryblossomwatch.com and we chose Monday morning for our trip. Even though it was a chilly 32 degrees when we arrived in DC, the skies were very clear, and I knew we would be in for a spectacular show when the sun came up.

All four of my younger kids went with me. I had a friend and her kids join us as well, and we met up at 4:30 at the local park and ride. They all climbed in my big van and we were off! One great thing about leaving so early in the morning, is that there is absolutely no traffic on the way down! The trip to DC usually takes about 80 – 90 minutes from where we met. It took us 54 minutes – no speeding!

I park on Ohio Drive SW near the Franklin D. Roosevelt memorial for this particular trip. They make it a one way road with free parking available on the left. At 5:15 in the morning, there are ample parking spots to choose from, even for our 15 passenger van. From there, it’s about a half a mile walk to the Lincoln Memorial, and there are a few cherry trees along the way!

Another helpful thing that I discovered, especially when taking this trip with kids, is that there are bathrooms under the Lincoln Memorial! Finding a bathroom in DC at that hour of the morning is not something I look forward to, so this makes our trip a lot easier. Oh, and they’re heated.

After a quick stop in the bathroom, we all climbed the steps and sat down to wait for the sun to come up.

First rays peaking through

Bit by bit, the sun emerged from behind the skyline. There were several photographers at the memorial and a few other observers despite the chilly morning. The view did not disappoint!

Lincoln’s view of the sunrise

First glimpse of the sun
One of my favorite shots of the kids

Once the sun was up and we had gotten our fill of pictures, we headed over to the tidal basin to see the cherry blossoms.

The Tidal Basin
The Jefferson Memorial
The Washington Monument
Me and my girls
My boys and their friends

We entered in by the Martin Luther King, Jr. memorial, turned right and walked by the water until we got to the Franklin D. Roosevelt memorial where there just happens to be another bathroom! We got lots of pictures of the trees and totally enjoyed the beauty of God’s creation before heading back to the car, which, if you remember, was parked just outside of the FDR memorial.

I absolutely love this tradition! I hope that some of my tips for this trip are helpful for those who would be crazy enough to try this! If you can handle the early morning wake up, it is totally worth it!

One Down, Nine to Go!

So, it’s been awhile since I’ve been on here, but we’ve been kind of busy since Christmas and the New Year getting ready to marry off our first kid! While most of the planning and preparation for the actual event was done by our daughter and her fiance (now husband), I still had to get the rest of our crew dressed and ready for the big day!

Two of our kids live out of state. Chrissy flew up from Florida on Thursday, but after several delays, she didn’t actually get here until the early morning hours on Friday. Jim was flying in from Missouri, and he texted me the day before the wedding frantically asking for prayer. His flight was also delayed, but he had a connecting flight to make and it didn’t look like he was going to make that flight. Thankfully, the airline was able to get him on a different flight into Washington, and his good friend, Daniel, came to the rescue and picked him up since we were at the rehearsal when his flight finally arrived. Whew!

If you know my family, then you know that we aren’t typically a “dress up” kind of gang, so most of us needed to get appropriate wedding attire. That meant hours of shopping for dresses and shoes with my girls, trying on pants and shoes for my guys, haircuts all around and suit alterations for the father of the bride! My friend Vivian was amazing and helped me out by shopping for two days with me to help me find my dress!

I have to take a minute to brag on my thrift shopping skills. We found my dress for $20 at Ross, Amanda’s dress for $25 marked down from $65 at the Dress Barn and we got Dave an amazing Jos. A. Banks suit for $20. We went to Goodwill on the last Saturday of the month when everything is half price for that deal. If you’re into bargain shopping, I highly recommend it! I also got all the older boys’ purple shirts at Sears for half off. I love a good deal!

Oh, I have a quick funny and somewhat nerve wracking story from the morning of the wedding. My two youngest daughters and I got to the church early that morning to help with last minute preparation and of course to spend some time with the bride! Amanda was getting her dress on, and came to me with a troubled look on her face. The store forgot to remove the security tag from her dress when we bought it! It was the kind that if you try and take it off yourself it will explode with ink. I was going to try a hack I found online to remove it with a pair of forks, but after rethinking the possibility of ink everywhere and the ceremony just 2 hours away, I decided to call the mall around the corner and see of they could take it off for me. They were happy to, and just 30 minutes later, Amanda was tag free and dressed for the wedding! (I still think I could have taken it off with those forks, though.)

Anyway, I managed to get everyone looking decent and to the church on time, and our daughter’s big day was simply beautifully. The ceremony was lovely. My favorite part was watching Kyle when he saw her coming down the isle. Truly a man in love! Julia was a gorgeous bride, and we couldn’t be more excited to welcome her husband into our crazy family. The reception was a lot of fun, and I finally got to see those two swing dance together!

It was kind of a surreal feeling watching Dave give our daughter away to someone else to take care of for the rest of her life. Julia hasn’t lived with us for over a year now, and I know that she is fully capable of being independent from us, but I imagine that on their child’s wedding day most parents experience that feeling of “am I really ready to let my baby go” that I felt that day. Happily, I know that I am ready to let her go, and a lot of that has to do with seeing her walking with the Lord, surrounded by godly friends and church family as well as the fact that she and her husband both desire a God-centered marriage.

Now that we’ve gone through all the emotions of marrying a child off, I think that I could do it again! Not too soon, though. For now, I am happy to continue praying for each of our children and their future spouses, whomever they may be, that God would be first and foremost in their hearts and in their lives. I might be praying for some grandkids too…

Our New York City Christmas Tradition

For the past three years, my friends and I have taken our kids to New York City to spend a day just before Christmas. This tradition started out as a conversation with my friend Karen. Our families had all just participated in a live nativity together, and she was talking about wanting to take her kids up to see the Christmas lights. When I told her that neither I nor my kids had ever been to New York City, we began to plan immediately for a trip for the next week, just before Christmas.

That first year, we had around 24 people in our crowd. Four of those were the moms, and the rest were little kids and teenagers. We were a bit of a hot mess trying to keep everyone together, but we had a great time! As per our usual field trip agenda, everything we had planned cost little to nothing, but we were still able to see a lot of stuff and we definitely covered a LOT of ground. Something like 10 miles…

I did a lot of research for this trip, and I was having a hard time finding a place to park two 15 passenger vans that wouldn’t cost us a fortune. I finally came up with the cheap solution of parking on Staten Island which cost us $8 for the whole day and then rode the ferry over to the city. The only caveat was that we would have to walk from Whitehall Street all the way up into Manhattan. This is a 4 mile walk with no stops along the way. We had multiple points of interest, so it ended up being a few extra miles once we had our route planned out.

A few of our stops that year included Ground Zero, The American Girl store and the Lego Store. We also stopped at Washington Square Park so the kids could run around for awhile. Yes, even after walking for miles, our kids needed to run and play. While we were at the park, we discovered that there was a film crew shooting for the show Blacklist Redemption. A few months later I looked up the show and found the episode from that day. Even though you couldn’t see any of our crowd, you could definitely recognize the sound of our kids screaming in the background! After that, we walked past several store fronts to see the Christmas displays on the way to our last stops at Rockefeller Center and Times Square.

We decided that first year to pack our dinner and stop for some authentic New York pizza for lunch. The waiter was mildly horrified when I asked him if the kids could have pineapple on their pizza. How was I supposed to know that pineapple on pizza in New York is a faux pas? Well, the tables turned after dinner, and I ended up being the one mildly horrified when I got the bill for dinner. We had only ordered 3 large pizzas with one topping each. After leaving the tip, I walked away with $100 less in my pocket and a vow to never buy pizza in New York again.

Our original plan that year was to walk up to Times Square, see everything we wanted to see and then walk back to the ferry and be back to our cars in time to eat our dinner. If you’ve ever been to New York City, you probably know right away that my plan would never work. No one can cover that much ground on foot and be finished by dinner.

We made it to Times Square by 6:00 and most of us wanted to cry when we realized that we would have to walk another 4 miles back to the ferry. We didn’t have money for a bus ride for that many people, and for whatever reason, none of us considered the subway. There was a man in Times Square that told us about a free bus that would take us back to the ferry. Needless to say, we were ecstatic and rushed to catch the bus which was indeed free and did indeed shuttle people to the ferry.

When we got off the bus, we discovered that we were at the NYC Ferry, NOT the Staten Island Ferry where we needed to be. We were still 4 miles away from where we needed to be. We were exhausted and hungry and weren’t even completely sure which direction we needed to start walking.

Thankfully, we had covered our trip in prayer, and God sent us a kind security guard at the NYC ferry who heard our sad tale and hooked us up with a FREE bus ride all the way back to the Staten Island Ferry. We had the whole bus to ourselves, and the kids sang Christmas Carols for our friendly bus driver all the way back to where we got off. It was truly a Christmas miracle in our eyes!

The second year went a bit smoother as we “discovered” the subway. We still parked at the same place, took the ferry and walked up to Manhattan, but this time we had a ride back planned for when we finished the day. We added a few stops this year and left some from the previous year out. Our crowd was made up of 25 kids and 5 adults and we walked 11 miles.

One of the highlight for this trip was stopping for lunch in Washington Square Park and meeting the “pigeon man”. We all had a chance to hold some bird food and have the birds flock around us, some of which ended up sitting on some of our shoulders, arms and even some heads!

The kids also enjoyed a trip to Dylan’s Candy Store. I mean, hey, what’s a few pounds of sugar between 25 kids when they’re going to walk it all off anyway? Am I right? It was a good trip.

Last week we took our third annual NYC trip. We had a slightly smaller group with 6 adults and 16 teen and kids. We decided to change things up a bit and after riding the ferry over, we took the subway all the way up to Central Park and spent most of the daylight hours exploring this beautiful park in the middle of the city.

I had a lot of stops planned for the day, but after a bumpy start that didn’t get us off of the subway until 12:30, we had to skip most of the southern end of the park so that we could make it to Rockefeller Center and Times Square to see the lights by the time it started to get dark. We walked to the Lego Store and then rode the subway again back to the ferry. Even with riding the subway up and back, we ended up walking nearly 15 miles before getting back to our vans!

All of these trips have been amazing memory-making experiences. Each year has been a little different. We’ve seen different things, had different people join and have stayed longer and walked more miles each year than the previous. The one thing that hasn’t changed is the bags that we pack for the homeless people each year.

We pack gallon bags with things like water bottles, granola bars, raisins, hand wipes and toothbrushes. We also stick a scarf in each bag that my mother-in-law makes each year. The kids each carry a backpack to hold their lunch as well as one of these bags. When we come across a homeless person in our walk through the city, the kids give them a bag and wish them a Merry Christmas. This, more than any of our other New York traditions, is what makes these trips so amazing. To see our kids being able to bless those less fortunate and to see them being the hands and feet of Jesus is truly a blessing to be a part of.

Next year, we’ll be going to New York again. We might try something new and walk the Brooklyn Bridge and maybe we’ll see some of Central Park that we missed this year. I know that we definitely will be packing our bags for the homeless people in the city again, and we’ll be praying that our little Christmas tradition blesses many and that in doing so, we are able to point others toward Jesus as we celebrate His birth.

Merry Christmas!

What Consumes Me

Time spent with my family is one of the things that I value most in my life. Date nights with my husband, family vacations, having everyone around to participate in holiday traditions, family dinners or simply having a conversation with any one of my kids are moments that I will treasure always.

Something else that I really enjoy is going places and doing things with my kids and our friends. Even though most of our trips are educational outings, they are an absolute blast! I love our field trips and spending time with this tribe of people. Walking through New York city, going to famous places like Niagara Falls and Colonial Williamsburg, seeing historic battlefields or simply hiking through the woods – these are all wonderful times spent with great friends! We also spend a lot of time together during the summer. We take trips to the beach, hang around the pool and serve together at the facility where our kids work and go to camp.

I also really like to watch my favorite television shows. I don’t like just one particular genre. I enjoy a wide variety when it comes to being entertained this way. Doctors and hospitals, super heroes, law enforcement, music competition and even a little sci-fi. Don’t worry – I’m still over here raising and schooling my kids. Actually, I watch most of the shows on my phone while doing other things. I never watch during school hours and its usually when I am cleaning or cooking dinner. Either that or I watch at night just before going to sleep. There are some really great shows out there!

Unfortunately, another one of my favorite things in life is food. I have a love/hate relationship with delicious food. I love to eat sweets – especially chocolate – but sweets do NOT love my body. Or, maybe they love it too much, because they tend to stick around a lot longer than I would like, and in all the wrong places. On the other hand, I also love a lot of really healthy foods. One of my favorite things to do is to come up with recipes incorporating my favorite vegetables. Whether its healthy food or junk food, I love good food!

Another thing that I would say I am passionate about is music. I love to sing. I always have. Music has been a huge part of my life for as long as I can remember. For a time, I had to take a break from being involved in any kind of singing group due to family responsibilities. I am so excited, because I just joined the worship team at my church, and I am now able to sing with this group often. Knowing that my kids all love music and have been blessed with musical talent makes me super happy too. There’s not much in this world that can give me chills faster than hearing my kids harmonizing together. Music is ever present in our house.

There is one other aspect of my life that I absolutely must talk about when it comes to things in my life that I love. My relationship with God would be first and foremost in the order of importance. My quiet time every morning, time spent in prayer, praising God through music, being taught truths from our pastor in church and being in fellowship with other believers all play a huge part in making me who I am today.

So out of all of these things, if I were to pick one that consumes me constantly and fills my thoughts more often than not, which one would it be? I wish that I could say without missing a beat that it was my relationship with God. That is truly the desire of my heart, that God would consume all of my thoughts, my actions, my words and all that I am. If I am being completely honest, though, I struggle with letting some of these other areas crowd Him out.

There are times when being a wife and mama to my crew feels like the most important thing that I could ever have in my life. I mean, what could be more important than having a life with the man I love while raising and schooling ten beautiful children? Or how about hanging out with my friends and making amazing memories with all of our kids while encouraging each other? Sometimes, I allow selfish desires to creep in, and I find myself lost in a bowl of delicious ice cream while binge watching my favorite shows.

I don’t believe for even a second that any of these things are more important than God. I could rationalize and tell you that all of these things are gifts from God and that I am simply enjoying His gifts to me, but that wouldn’t get to the heart of my problem. I believe that, like a lot of Christians, I tend to see my relationship with God in a distorted way. I see it as me trying to keep Him in the center of my life and allowing all other aspects of my life to revolve around Him. Since the Bible says that Christ in me is the hope of glory, that’s not a bad thing, but when I think of my relationship to him in this way, it could also look like me trying to keep God in a box. The box represents my life, and that, to me, seems like I’m trying to control the relationship between me and God. With myself in control, its way too easy to allow God to be bumped out of the center by all these other areas vying for my attention.

So how do we as Christians keep God as the main focus of our life? How do we keep all these other things that we love from creeping in and taking the place of the One who created us to worship Him? Do we need to give up all the things besides God that bring us pleasure in life? I don’t think so. A lot of these things are mentioned specifically in the Bible as gifts directly from God. “Children are a gift from the Lord…” Psalm 127:3. “Break forth and sing for joy and sing praises.” Psalm 98:4. “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!” Psalm 133:1. “For He satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.” Psalm 107:9.

Perhaps a better way would be to change our perspective on the way that we view our relationship with God. Rather than seeing it only as God being “in our lives”, and us needing to keep Him at the center, maybe we should think more about ourselves as being “in Him” and allowing Him to permeate every single area of our lives. That way, it will be Him controlling all the other areas of our lives that try to consume our thoughts. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.” 2 Corinthians 5:17. “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.” Ephesians 2:10. “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1. “For our sake He made Him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.” 2 Corinthians 5:21.”For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith.” Galatians 3:26. “In Him we live and move and have our being…”Acts 17:28

To have my life be consumed by Christ is the greatest goal that I could ever attain. I just need to remember that while it is a precious gift to have Christ in me, it is an amazing thing to have my life hidden in Christ Jesus – to be completely consumed by Him.

“Whoever abides in Me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

 

The Disappearing Holiday

On December 16th, in the year 1620, the Mayflower arrived in Plymouth Harbor. On board this tiny ship were a group of people that we know as the Pilgrims. Little did they know the hardships that they would face would cost some of them their very lives.

Lacking knowledge of this new land, and having weakened bodies after such a tiring journey from England, sickness became rampant among the Pilgrims. Suffering from pneumonia and scurvy, and not having enough food available, 2 or 3 people died each day that winter, bringing the original 102 members of their group down to a mere 52.

I’m sure that you are familiar with this story that can be found in almost every account of American history. As the story progresses, we know that God spared the Pilgrims’ lives by bringing them Squanto, an English speaking Native American who taught them the much needed skills to survive in New England. He showed them how to plant and harvest crops, make fishing nets and he introduced them to Massasoit, the chief of the Wampanoag tribe. This tribe quickly became allies and great friends to the people of the Plymouth Colony.

That next winter in Plymouth would be very different from the previous one. Instead of facing sickness and starvation, the colony now had plenty of food stored up that would last them through the spring, as well as having made new friends. In the fall of 1621, the colonists held a 3 day celebration in honor of a bountiful harvest. Chief Massasoit and 90 of his men came and joined their English friends for feasting and entertainment.

A legend that a lot of people don’t know is that before the Pilgrims began their feast, each person had 5 kernels of corn on their plate. This was to serve as a reminder of the hardships that they had faced during their first winter when often all they had to eat was 5 kernels of corn a piece each day. Remembering this promoted a spirit of thankfulness to God for bringing them through such difficulty to a time of extreme bounty. They now had a wealth of knowledge so that they could survive in the new land as well as freedom from the Church of England that they had so desperately wanted.

Even though this is traditionally known as the first Thanksgiving, we didn’t celebrate it as a national holiday until years later. Many presidents have called for a national day of thanks in the month of November. On October 3rd, 1789, George Washington made the following proclamation:

Whereas it is the duty of all Nations to acknowledge the providence of Almighty God, to obey his will, to be grateful for his benefits, and humbly to implore his protection and favor, and whereas both Houses of Congress have by their joint Committee requested me “to recommend to the People of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts the many signal favors of Almighty God especially by affording them an opportunity peaceably to establish a form of government for their safety and happiness.”

Now therefore I do recommend and assign Thursday the 26th day of November next to be devoted by the People of these States to the service of that great and glorious Being, who is the beneficent Author of all the good that was, that is, or that will be. That we may then all unite in rendering unto him our sincere and humble thanks, for his kind care and protection of the People of this Country previous to their becoming a Nation, for the signal and manifold mercies, and the favorable interpositions of his providence, which we experienced in the course and conclusion of the late war, for the great degree of tranquility, union, and plenty, which we have since enjoyed, for the peaceable and rational manner, in which we have been enabled to establish constitutions of government for our safety and happiness, and particularly the national One now lately instituted, for the civil and religious liberty with which we are blessed; and the means we have of acquiring and diffusing useful knowledge; and in general for all the great and various favors which he hath been pleased to confer upon us.

And also that we may then unite in most humbly offering our prayers and supplications to the great Lord and Ruler of Nations and beseech him to pardon our national and other transgressions, to enable us all, whether in public or private stations, to perform our several and relative duties properly and punctually, to render our national government a blessing to all the people, by constantly being a Government of wise, just, and constitutional laws, discreetly and faithfully executed and obeyed, to protect and guide all Sovereigns and Nations (especially such as have shown kindness unto us) and to bless them with good government, peace, and concord. To promote the knowledge and practice of true religion and virtue, and the increase of science among them and Us, and generally to grant unto all Mankind such a degree of temporal prosperity as he alone knows to be best.

Given under my hand at the City of New York the third day of October in the year of our Lord 1789.

In the middle of the Civil War, Abraham Lincoln proclaimed a national day of “thanksgiving and praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the heavens”, to be celebrated on the final Thursday in November. This was observed faithfully until 1941, when President Roosevelt signed a bill making the date of Thanksgiving a matter of federal law and setting the day officially as the fourth Thursday of November.

I remember back in my early years of school, the Thanksgiving holiday was a BIG deal. When November would roll around we came home with Pilgrim hats, Indian head bands (back in my day, we stilled called them Indians – I know it’s not politically correct) and turkeys made from tracing our hands. Everywhere you went you would see some sort of Thanksgiving decoration as people anticipated the upcoming holiday. Talk of families gathering and the feasting that would take place built up lots of excitement!

So, what happened to Thanksgiving? What happened to make Americans go straight from Halloween right into Christmas with barely a pause to celebrate this uniquely American holiday? No other country in the world celebrates Thanksgiving, so why have we as a nation stopped?

I believe that one of the biggest reasons is that America has turned from God. In the proclamation that Washington gave, it is evident that God was recognized as Almighty Providence and that our president wished to give Him the honor and thanks that He deserved. Washington focused on God and our relationship to Him. In fact, of the 432 words that made up his speech, he referred to God 15 times. This obvious focus on divine authority links the liberty, happiness and wisdom of our nation inherently to the grace of God.

We can see how far we have drifted from this ideal when we compare this speech to more recent presidents. In the proclamation of 2000, Bill Clinton said, Every generation of Americans has benefited from the generosity, talents, efforts, and contributions of their fellow citizens. All of us have been enriched by the diverse cultures,
traditions, and beliefs of the millions of people who, by birth or choice, have come to call America
their home. All of us are beneficiaries of our founders’ wisdom and of the service and sacrifice of
our men and women in uniform. While Americans are an independent people, we are
interdependent as well, and our greatest achievements are those we have accomplished together.
As we celebrate Thanksgiving, let us remember with gratitude that despite our differences in
background, age, politics, or race, each of us is a member of our larger American family and that,
working together, there is nothing we cannot accomplish in this promising new century.”  In 2015, Barrack Obama said in his Thanksgiving proclamation, “I encourage the people of the United States to join together — whether in our homes, places of worship, community centers, or any place of fellowship for friends and neighbors — and give thanks for all we have received in the past year, express appreciation to those whose lives enrich our own, and share our bounty with others.”  Both speeches indicate that we as a nation have ourselves to thank and that we have and will accomplish much by depending on the human race, not on the Creator of it.

Another reason I believe that Thanksgiving is barely observed is the tremendous amount of greed that the Christmas season promotes. The successors following Lincoln as president followed his tradition of declaring the last Thursday in November to be a day of thanksgiving. In 1939, President Franklin Roosevelt decided to break this tradition. That year, the month of November had five Thursdays instead of the more common four. Roosevelt declared Thanksgiving to be on the 4th Thursday instead of the last Thursday. He said that he hoped that giving merchants extra time to sell their goods before Christmas would help to increase profits and spending, and therefore would help to bring the country out of the Great Depression. While this may have genuinely been an idea that he thought would financially help our country, it also served as a springboard to launch us into to the holiday buying frenzy that begins as soon as November 1st arrives.

Black Friday has now crept its way into our American tradition of celebrating, and stores have begun to open up for pre-black Friday sales on Thanksgiving Day, causing many employees to miss out on time spent with family and friends, all for the sake of making more money. News of customers fighting over a coveted sale item, people camping out all night in front of stores, traffic being backed up for miles, crowded parking lots and over crowded check-out lines are just glimpses of the effect that greed has had on our country. Everyone is rushing around to buy all the things on their loved ones’ Christmas wish lists, forgetting that the real reason for the holiday is because of the greatest Gift ever given, and that it is HIS birthday we are supposed to be celebrating.

Thanksgiving is traditionally known as a time for families to spend time with each other. Something that my 16 year old pointed out to me is the vast amount of broken families across our nation probably causes many people to shy away from this holiday. It serves as a reminder of what they’ve lost and the pain that they have endured due to divorce, estrangement or the death of a loved one.

Perhaps some people haven’t experienced any of these tragic events. Maybe they simply just don’t like to spend time with family because they weren’t close growing up. This is, in my opinion, a tragedy in and of itself. Family game nights have been replaced by binge watching TV, playing video games and spending hours upon hours on social media. God often has no place in the American home and instead people worship other things such as money, material possession or even celebrities. Children have no respect for their parents or other authority because their parents haven’t required respect from them. The mentality parents have of “give them what they want so we don’t have to entertain them” has led to a spirit of entitlement instead of a spirit of gratitude for things that should have been earned, not just given because they wanted them. Generation X has no desire to spend time with family, because there are very few, if any, good memories of time spent together while they were growing up.

As a child, in my house on Thanksgiving, at each person’s place at the table, there were 5 kernels of corn. After we enjoyed our feast together, we would pass a basket around the table. Each time the basket passed, we put a kernel of corn in and would tell everyone something that we were thankful for. The basket went around the table 5 times until everyone had put in all of their kernels. This is a wonderful tradition that has been passed down from my parents that we still look forward to every year. We also look forward to time spent simply being together as a family and enjoying each other’s company.

So, is there hope for saving this holiday that points us back to the Divine Providence that our forefathers so highly revered? I sincerely hope so. Somehow, people need to be reminded that without God’s blessing, our nation will continue down the path that we are currently on which surely will end in our demise. If we are to be the great nation that so many proclaim us to be, we MUST take the time to thank God for our many blessings and to plead for His mercy and grace.

2 Chronicles 7:14 says, “If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” America needs so much healing right now  ̶  healing from racial prejudice, hatred, immorality and greed. We need healing in our businesses, our schools our government and even in our churches. We need healing in our homes and in our marriages. More than all of these things, we need healing in our hearts.

America, wake up! Thanksgiving is not simply a break from work and a time to eat copious amounts of food in between the hustle and bustle of the madness of the Christmas season. It’s not even about the Pilgrims, the Mayflower or even the turkeys. This is the day that we set aside to reflect on the goodness of God toward us and take time to give Him the thanks that He deserves. If we as a nation don’t realize this, before long, the holiday that we know as Thanksgiving may disappear completely.

Multi-tasking: The Mom Super Power

If you’ve been a mom for years or if you’ve only been a mom for a few weeks, you know that we are multi-tasking masters! From the time that we wake up to the time our eyes finally close at the end of the day, our lives are filled with doing many things at the same time! If you are a new mom, you might be just learning how to do many things at once, but if you have reached the point where your kids are double digits and older, then you most likely have black belt level multi-tasking skills that those observing should be in awe of.
Let me give those of you who aren’t sure what I am talking about a glimpse into  possible real life scenarios that we moms face every single day. It might go something like this:

SCENE 1

It’s 7:45 in the morning, and we have planned to take a field trip to Washington DC with some of our friends who we are supposed to meet at 8:30 at the nearby park-and-ride. I had all the kids pack their lunches the night before and I woke them up at 7:00 so that we would not be late. My two youngest are sitting at the table slowly eating their breakfast, two kids are wandering around the kitchen trying to figure out what they are supposed to eat for their breakfast and one more kid is still up in their room and I have no idea if they are actually awake yet.

Mom: (to the 2 kids eating) We have to leave in 15 minutes. Hurry up and finish your food. (Turns to the 2 wandering around the kitchen while she is gathering all the packed lunches) What are you doing? We have to leave soon. Did you eat anything yet?

Wandering kid 1: I don’t know what to eat. There’s nothing I like.

Wandering kid 2: I don’t want to eat anything. I always feel sick in the car if I eat before driving that far.

Mom: (to the 2 kids eating) Finish those last bites and then put your dishes in the dishwasher. After that go find your shoes and put them on. (To wandering kid 1) I JUST went shopping. What do you mean there’s nothing you like? What is it that you are looking for? We have cereal, fruit, bagels, waffles, toast, eggs, sausage… you don’t like ANY of those things? Make me a list of things you will eat for breakfast and next time I shop I’ll try and get some of those things. For now, just pick something because we are leaving in ten minutes. (To wandering kid 2) Okay, well, grab something that you can take in the car in case you get hungry later. Oh, and grab a bucket in case you get car sick.

Kid 1 eating: I can’t finish my waffle. I’m full.

Kid 2 eating: I’m done!

Mom: (to kids eating) You literally have ONE bite left. Put it in your mouth and take care of your dishes and get your shoes on. If you are done, your dishes should be put away and you should be getting your shoes on. (Helps kids not so gently out of their seats and guides them toward the kitchen with their dishes in hand while hollering up the steps to possible sleeping kid:) “We are leaving in 5 minutes! Hurry up!”

Wandering kid 1: Fine. I’ll just have some toast. Can you braid my hair?

Mom: Okay, sure. (While putting all the breakfast things away says to kids now finished eating) You HAVE to find your shoes right now and put them on. (To wanderer 2:) “If you’re not going to eat anything, then PLEASE help your brothers find their shoes. We are going to be late.”

Kid 1 looking for shoes: I can only find one of my flip flops! It’s not with the other one!

Mom: (While braiding kid’s hair) It got pushed down the steps into the TV room. Look down there. Hey, someone feed the fish!

Possible sleeping kid: (walks slowly down the steps into the kitchen) Do I have time for a shower? I didn’t hear you wake us up.

Mom: (trying to keep her cool while finishing braiding hair) Nope! We are getting ready to load up in 2 minutes. You need to get your stuff together and we HAVE to leave. (Turns to Kid 2 who is supposed to be putting shoes on) Why are you playing with Legos????? Why are your shoes not on? Put your shoes on now, and get into the car. Did anyone feed the dog? (Checks dog dish, sees that it’s empty and fills it with food) Did everyone go to the bathroom? I am not stopping for potty breaks on the way down to DC. Everyone make sure you go before you get in the car. (To kid 1 who FINALLY found their shoe:) “Your face has syrup all over it. Make sure you wash it when you wash your hands after going to the bathroom.” (To wandering kid 1:) “Your toast is finished. Put it in a sandwich bag and take it in the car. (Walks outside and checks temperature) It’s a little chilly. Everyone grab a jacket or hoodie to take with you in the car. Did everyone grab their lunches by the front door? Someone take the cooler of drinks out to the van. (Checks to make sure everyone is out of the house, locks the door and gets in the van) Great! We are supposed to meet our friends in 10 minutes and the place is 20 minutes away! Well, crud.”

SCENE 2

Our house in the morning during a school day:  We’ve finished breakfast and Bible time together and everyone has begun their different subjects. Mom is sitting at the table with the youngest doing math, working on school schedules and paying bills.

Mom: If you have 4 candies and I give you one more, how many do you have?

Kid doing Algebra downstairs on the computer: Mom!!!! I need help!

Mom: (to kid downstairs) Okay! Just a minute! (Turns to kid at table) How many candies to you have? What’s one more than 4?

Kid upstairs: Mom! How many pages am I supposed to read in History?

Mom: (checks History assignments while finishing up with the bills) Pages 12-23. Do the questions at the end! (To kid at table) Do you know how many 1 more is than 4, sweetie? Oh, you wrote the 5 already? Good job! Now, color this elephant in while I go downstairs and see what your sister needs. (Walks through kitchen and sees her teacup filled with cold tea sitting on the counter, so she sticks it in the microwave to warm up while she is helping kid downstairs)

Kid upstairs: What were those pages again?

Mom: (hollering from downstairs) 12-23 and do the questions after!! (Turns to kid at computer:) “What’s the problem?”

Algebra kid: I don’t understand this. How is this answer wrong? I did it just the way they said to in the lecture.

Mom: Ummmm, let me look at the book. Hang on.

Kid doing math up at the table: Mom! I’m done the elephant! Am I done math?

Mom: No! Color the tiger next. Stay in the lines!

Kid upstairs: Do I have to write all the questions? Can I just tell you the answers?

Mom: Yes. Write them all out. You’re in high school. Do the work.Can you please stop hollering down here? I’m trying to help with Algebra! (Turns to Algebra kid:) “Let me show you on paper how to do this.” (Shows kid how and then goes back up to the kitchen and starts to put food in the crock pot for dinner)

Kid at table: I’m done the tiger!

Mom: (puts top on crock pot and goes to finish math at the table) Sorry buddy! Let’s finish these last 5 problems.

Algebra kid: Mom! I need help again!

Mom: (to Algebra kid) Do all the problems you know how and then I’ll come help with the rest. I need to finish with your brother. (Hears microwave beeping and realizes she forgot her tea AGAIN so she gets up and grabs her tea and brings it to the table) Okay. How many bears are on this page? Can you find them all?

Kid on break wanders in: Mom! Look at this cool ship I builted out of Legos!

Mom: Not builted. Built. There’s no “ED” after it. That’s really cool, dude, but I need you to go back and play for 5 more minutes so that I can finish with your brother here. Oh, shoot! I forgot to finish with the crock pot. Did you finish counting the bears? I’ll be right back. I need to finish getting dinner ready. Write how many bears.

Algebra kid: I’m done!

Kid upstairs: Can I have the computer then?

Mom: Not yet! I have to help her with Algebra still, and I’m not finished with your brother’s math yet! (Finishes putting dinner in the crock pot and turns it on before sitting back down at the table.) I’m almost done up here! Just give me a second. (Takes a sip of her COLD tea) *Sigh*

Sound familiar to anyone? I could write lots and lots of different scenarios, all in which the mom is busy doing multiple things at the same time and with all different people. I believe that this is a special ability that God gives us when we are blessed with children because, let’s be real for a moment here: how else would our houses run properly? Who else could manage all of these things at one time? We’ve got our kids to look after and help with school (be it home school or just home work), we have a house to maintain and keep clean, we have to do all the shopping, the cooking, the driving kids back and forth to all their different sports, youth groups etc, not to mention our wonderful husbands who come home after a busy day and also need our love and attention. There is absolutely NO WAY we could get everything done without the ability of multi-tasking. I’m sure of it.

Some people look on and say, “I don’t know how you do it all. You must be exhausted all the time.” Not so much. I mean, yeah, I get tired just like everyone else, and sometimes my days can be exhausting, but do I feel tired ALL THE TIME? No. I don’t. As a mom of many kids, I think that I thrive on doing all the things all the time. It’s who God made me to be. I honestly think that if I just had one thing to do at a time all the time, I would get bored and I wouldn’t be nearly as productive as I am now. Maybe it’s pride speaking, but I love being able to multi-task as much as I do. Hey, it’s my mom super power!

One thing I will admit, though. Sometimes it gets overwhelming. There are times when I feel like I’ve stretched myself farther than I should. I’ve committed to too much or just simply taken on too many tasks all at once. At this point, I feel like I’ve worn myself down so that I am running on fumes. Some of you might be nodding now in agreement because you’ve been here. You’ve reached the point where you feel like you have nothing left to give. It’s like you’re empty.

I have always thought that if I started out my day spending time in the Word and talking to God, then He would fill me up with enough grace to overflow onto the rest of my family. I think that I need to change my perspective. Don’t get me wrong, here. I still believe that starting my day with my quiet time is absolutely and positively the best way for me to begin my day. Spending time with my Father before I jump into my multi-tasking whirl wind is the only way to keep my sanity! What I am talking about is changing the way I see myself. I’ve always imagined myself like a pot that needs to be filled in order to be poured out for others. I believe that I need to view myself instead, as an open-ended conduit of God’s grace, compassion, kindness, love and power. He is constantly giving and if I stay connected to His unending grace and power, I will be able to maintain my ability to give endlessly of myself to those who depend on me day after day. My body may get tired, but my spirit will stay renewed and ready to give.

Maybe it’s time to take a step back and evaluate where you are in your relationship with God. How do you view yourself? Are you more of a pot that comes back to be refilled now and then, or are you staying connected so that you can allow His grace and power to flow through you all the time? I want to stay connected to Him so that when my family needs me, they can see the power of God flowing through me and flowing out to meet their many needs all at the same time.

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Personal Retreats: Stepping Away To Gain a Fresh Perspective

Last weekend, I did something that I think is super important for everyone to do at least once in their life. I went away all by myself. I left my family and all the “mom things” behind that I usually do for 36 hours of much needed alone time. I needed to gain a fresh perspective on my life.

This is a luxury that I don’t often indulge in. I love my family and I love being with my family. That urge to “get away from it all” is not something that I am very familiar with, but when that urge comes, it’s usually because I am drained; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. That’s where I found myself a few weeks ago, and I knew it was time to step away.

If you are a parent, you know that our job can be super taxing on multiple levels. We give and give and give of ourselves, and then when we are pretty sure we don’t have anything left, we somehow are able to give some more. Food in the cupboards, meals on the table three (or more) times a day, clean clothes on all the bodies, taxi service 24/7, teacher, counselor, mentor, referee, judge, organizer of schedules, wiper of tears, snot and all other bodily fluids…and this is just the physical needs that we meet everyday. How about all the praying, the agonizing about the different stages our kids are in or the fear of failing our family that tends to creep up on us so often?

Our school year is quickly approaching, and I realized that if I was going to start this year off well, I first had to tend to my own needs. There is no way that I would be able to meet everyone else’s needs for the duration of another school year if I was trying to draw water from a well that was painfully dry. What I needed was a personal retreat.

If you’ve never taken a personal retreat then you are most likely due for one. Family vacations don’t count. A romantic get-away with your spouse doesn’t count either. Both of these are absolutely wonderful and I definitely encourage them, but neither of them will provide you with the same results that a personal retreat can. Let me share with you what my retreat looked like.

CHOOSE YOUR LOCATION

First, I needed to choose a place that I could get to with not too much travel time. If you are consumed with the hassle of getting to your destination, then you are going to end up arriving there super frazzled, and it will take you time to settle down from your trip. This is not a great way to start a retreat.

I chose to go about 2 hours away, to the eastern shore of Maryland. I have family there, and I was blessed to be able to use this wonderful little boathouse situated on the beautiful Choptank River. My uncle built this house for his in-laws to be used specifically for retreats. It’s not very big, but it was perfect for my needs.

CHOOSE HOW LONG YOU WILL STAY AND PREPARE ACCORDINGLY

One or two nights is usually a good amount of time for a retreat like this. I chose to leave early on Saturday morning and come home Sunday evening. This gave me almost 2 full days of refreshing my body as well as my soul. I packed enough food to last this entire time so that I wouldn’t need to drive anywhere. I chose simple meals that didn’t need much preparing. Things like chips and salsa, microwave dinners and already prepared salads. If you end up in a hotel like I did for my first retreat, restaurants can be relaxing during this time as well. Take the opportunity to let someone wait on you for a change!

MAKE A LIST OF ALL THE THINGS YOU WANT TO BRING

My list was relatively short. I took a notebook and pen, several different books, my clothes, toiletries, food and lots of water. I also brought my bathing suit and towel so that I could go kayaking on the river!

BE PREPARED TO STAY OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA

One great way to eat up all of your time on a retreat, is to get sucked into spending time on Facebook, Instagram or any other social media. Remember, you are here to get away from it all and be by yourself! You can do without those things for two days, I promise. I did pack my phone and charger. I had to be realistic and not make myself COMPLETELY unreachable. I also use my phone for pictures, and the river is such a great place to capture God’s creation!

          

 

            

CLEAR YOUR MIND BY SPENDING TIME PRAISING GOD

Once I was settled in and got all of my things put away, I grabbed my notebook and wrote down as many attributes and characteristics of God that I could think of, and while writing them, I praised Him for those things. This helped me to get the focus off of all of my problems and anything that was going on back home, and onto the One who is in control of all of the things that had been consuming my mind. There is no better way to start off this time than by glorifying the One who invites me to lay all of my cares at His feet and who says, “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

GET RID OF ANYTHING STANDING IN YOUR WAY OF COMMUNICATING WITH GOD

After spending time praising God, I spent the next bit of time confessing any sin in my life that I was aware of. My list included things like losing patience with the kids, spending too much time on my phone and not showing my husband often enough how much I love and appreciate him as my spouse and the father of our kids. I wanted to make sure that I was right before God before I began to pour out my requests to Him.

POUR OUT YOUR HEART

At this point, I was ready to begin talking to God about all of things that were weighing on my heart and mind. I grabbed a kayak and headed out onto the river to pray. I spent several hours drifting around the river while I prayed in depth for every single person in my family. I prayed for specific needs as well as for wisdom to know how to be a better wife and mom and to know how to best serve in these roles. I prayed for direction. I prayed for grace. I prayed for my friends. I prayed until I had nothing left to pray about.

REST YOUR BODY

After hours of paddling around, I was tired and I was hungry! I had a tasty little lunch and then a much needed nap. It’s not easy for me to justify taking a nap back at home (although I do take naps occasionally) but one of the reasons I take these retreats is to catch up on my physical rest, so I took advantage of the fact that nobody needed me for the next two days,and I slept when needed. I think I took 2 naps the first day, went to bed around 8:30 and then napped the next day as well. It was truly wonderful!

START A BOOK THAT YOU’VE BEEN WANTING TO READ

I love a good book.I used to read all the time. If you would ask me what I was reading, sometimes I would tell you about several books that I was reading at the same time. Not so much these days. I still love to read, I just don’t take the time to do it as often as I would like. When I get into a good book, I tend to tune out of everything else going on. Yeah. Not really a good thing when you are trying to run a house, school your kids or serve your husband. So, I don’t read as much as I would like. That is why I love to get into a new book or two when I go away. I brought a few devotional books that I wanted to check out as well as a good old Christian romance novel. I read the entire novel and I decided on my next book to use to supplement my quiet time. Yay for reading time!

ENJOY THE QUIET

This is one of my favorite parts of a personal retreat. I think that one of the most important spiritual disciplines as well as one of the most difficult to practice, is the discipline of silence and solitude. Praying comes pretty easily, especially when you are at home with all of your little “blessings” running around. Rapid fire prayers are sent toward heaven all day long. Prayers like, “God, give me patience”, “God give me grace”, “God, give me wisdom” or the most common prayer for a mom is simply, “God, HELP!” I often fall asleep praying at night and I take time to pray in the early hours of the morning after saying goodbye to my husband as he goes off to work. What I don’t often get, is enough time alone to experience real silence so that I can hear God talking back to me and answering those prayers. When you have a relationship with someone, the best way to communicate is through conversation. It’s really hard to learn anything about the other person if you are always the one doing all of the talking. That is why I loved the quiet that I got while I was at the river. I could finally stop and listen long enough to hear what Jesus wanted to say to me. Sometimes He answered requests that were made and other times He showed me areas of my life that need improvement. Most of all, He simply assured me of His great love for me.

Watching sunrises and sunsets is one my favorite things to do, so when I saw the pink sky through the window of the boathouse, I got out of bed and grabbed my phone, my jacket and a warm blanket and headed outside to take in the beauty and to enjoy the quiet of the early morning.

                  

The rest of my Sunday was spent doing more reading, praying, listening to some worship songs and sitting on the deck of the house simply basking in the beauty of God’s creation. I had lunch, tidied up, took a nap in the sun and then loaded up my things and headed home feeling like a different person than when I arrived just the day before.

Your own personal retreat probably won’t look anything like mine. Every person has different needs that have to be filled in different ways than anyone else. Getting out into nature might not be your thing. Maybe you’re more of a soak in a hot tub full of bubbles kind of person, or maybe you need to go sit on a beach somewhere listening to the waves crash and the gulls cry. Whatever helps you to relax and unwind and ultimately be refreshed in body, mind and soul, is something that you should take the time to indulge in every once in awhile. Your kids might not understand why you want to leave and go somewhere alone, but ultimately, your family will thank you when they see the difference that it can make when you come back to them refreshed, invigorated and ready to face life again.